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Self - Love : Come Fall In Love With Yourself

What is Self-Love? Many people mistakenly believe that self-love is the s ame as selfishness,  or having a b ig ego. It’s not.   So, what do we mean when we say “self-love”? Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness.  Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good.  Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.  Loving yourself doesn’t mean you think you’re the smartest, most talented, and most beautiful person in the world. Instead, when you love yourself you accept your so-called weaknesses, appreciate these so-called shortcomings as something that makes you who you are. When you love yourself you have compassion for yourself. You take care of yourself like you’d take care of a friend who is in stress. You treat yourself kindly. You don’t criticize yourself. Self-love is a practice and it’s a skill that takes work. Self-love is something that
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The Beauty Of Life : Uncertainty


Uncertainty is basically not knowing what to do next and being unable to predict what's going to happen in the near future for sure. I always used to hate uncertainty. Probably because I hate to take risks. The unknown outcome scares me a lot because you can't predict the possibility of a future outcome. The world is an uncertain place, things change fast and it can be difficult to see what's coming next. Uncertainty is very stressful, it is even worse than predictable negative consequences, than knowing something bad is definitely going to happen.
 
It brings a lot of questions in your mind like Will I get that job? Will I get success in this field? Will I get the promotion? Will I win the award? Will I be accepted into graduate school? What are the results of my report? Shall I do this or not? and so on. 

I always used to pray god that somehow I'll get the power of knowing my future. So that there will be no risk in doing new things. If the outcome will be bad I'm not gonna do that. As a result of my imaginary thinking, I start to ignore trying new things. Because I thought what if what I was planned to happen not happens at all. And something completely different came, for which I'll not be prepared. What if by this incidence I broke completely and never stand for myself again?

Doesn't it look so horrifying? Only in my head, I made this problem a giant monster who started eating me from inside. But I tell you how I overcome my biggest fear, the fear of uncertainty, and how I deal with it.

One day me and my brother we were watching a movie. A suspense thriller movie. I was completely into that, curious to know the suspense. But on the other hand, I see my brother who seems not that interested in watching that movie. I finally ask him, "you don't like this movie?"

And he says that "I know the end suspense of this movie, my friend already told me, so what's the meaning in watching the whole movie again." That's the one-sentence solution of my problem, And I was like yes he is right in suspense movie if you already know the suspense then there is no meaning in watching that movie. Same as with our life. If we already know the outcome before doing anything then what's the meaning of doing that thing.

Isn't it beautiful that we don't know our future, because if you already know what's gonna happen you can't enjoy your present. If it's bad you will start worrying about it and if it's good you will wait for that moment to happen so that you can enjoy it. So don't you think not knowing is a better option?

Actually, we always enjoy our journey more than success. but we never accept this fact. We learn a lot from our journey. In the end, we memorized our journey that how we tackle with that tough phase of our life.

Fear is a natural reaction to uncertainty. It can cause anxiety and stress which can damage your health and get you stuck. but you can't let it rule by worrying about the future which is pointless. With the right approach, you make things easier for yourself. learn to be comfortable with uncertainty & be prepared for whatever the future brings.

I think there is only one aspect that we all need to apply in our life is acceptance. Accept the fact that there are a lot of things that are beyond our control. Let's not fight with it. Whether it's a pandemic period or a family problem or losing a hob, a huge loss in business there are lots of hardships in life. Adaptable will always be beneficial. Accept these things that we can't control all events in life, but we can control how we react. Whatever the goal, we have to learn to trust ourselves and deal with the reality of uncertainty.






Location: Pune, Maharashtra, India

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